Getting away from the Narcissist is the hardest thing you will ever have to do. You can break free but in doing so it brings a whole new group of challenges.
Narcissists choose people who lack self-confidence as they are easy targets, they make you fall in love with them and live in a relationship of co-dependency. They choose people like this as they are more likely to believe the lies the Narcissist tells.
The question is, how do you break free from their clutches?
Take Back Control
You can be guaranteed that the Narcissist knows your inner emotions better than you do, it’s how they pulled you into their clutches in the first place. You will need to take back control of your emotions, it strips them of their power over you, but be careful when doing this, don’t let them see you in control until you are ready to leave.
You Don’t Need Them
Part of the Narcissists power over you is they convince you that in order to be happy in life you need them. You don’t. The happiness you want in your life comes from within you, it is not something external or given as a gift from others, gifts can be pulled away from you, only you can control what you keep inside. The only time a Narcissist is happy is when they are controlling another and causing them pain. Once you accept you don’t need them at all, you’ve broken another link they have to you, you are on your way to being free of them.
What Are You Afraid Of?
This is the toughest part of breaking free from the Narcissist.
You’ve been in this relationship and they know your deepest darkest secrets, you know that’s about to be exposed to all as that is their ammunition, their threat to make you stay.
Deep breath, and tell those secrets yourself, then there are no bullets to the Narcissists gun.
Fear is a mind killer, it can make you sick. Take back the power to your life.
They will tell you no one will love you. They are lying and yes one day you will find a love worth having.
They will tell you that you are not good enough. You are so good enough in so many ways.
They will tell you that you are stupid. You are smart, after all, you saw through them and you’ve taken away their power, that takes real smarts to do that.
You are incredible, you have so much strength within you, you can break free and you will learn to love your freedom.