In a study carried out, it is estimated that 1 in 5 corporate executives are psychopaths. When you couple that with the likes of Ted Bundy and Hannibal Lecter it makes for scary reading.
Testing for psychopathy uses a standard psychometric tool called the Psychopathic Personality Inventory-Revised (PPI-R). Dr Kevin Dutton explains, “The PPI-R does not say that someone is or is not a psychopath. It scores them on eight traits that contribute to a psychopathic character. Some of those traits, such as fearlessness or stress immunity, can be positive. Others, such as blame externalization or being unconcerned about the future are more likely to be negative.”
With those kinds of numbers living amongst us, that means you are meeting and associating with at least one on a regular basis. They can be family members, friends’ co-workers or neighbors.
They are extremely clever at what they do, they manipulate us, play mind games and use charm to get from us what they want.
As Psychology Today describes, “The psychopath can appear normal, even charming. Underneath, he/she lacks conscience and empathy, making him/her manipulative, volatile and often (but by no means always) criminal.”
These 7 Common Phrases Are Used By Psychopaths and it is worth noting that they are not too dissimilar to what narcissists use, there is a fine line between them both.
1 “You misunderstood what I said”
In any healthy relationship, communication is key, the problems begin when what is being communicated is toxic and therefore damaging. A Psychopath will never admit they are wrong and will always lay the blame on the person who is only repeating back what was said by claiming they misunderstood.
2 “You’re always so sensitive”
Psychopaths play on your emotions, they will spend weeks even months building you up finding out what makes you tick just so at any given time of their choosing they can bring you down and you end up an emotional wreck not knowing what you have done wrong, they will use a smear campaign against you too and you end up doubting yourself.
3 “(Insert Name Here) agrees with me”
They want you to believe that other people are of the same opinion about you that they have. They will bring other people’s name into conversations about what they say is wrong with you. This is a way of creating a devastating impact on you to make you believe that people you have previously thought trustworthy and had your best interests at heart have been talking about you behind your back. This is done so the other person becomes your enemy and not the Psychopath.
4 “You always overanalyze everything”
When you become aware that the person you are dealing with could well be a Psychopath or narcissist and this makes them feel threatened with exposure, they will accuse you of an overactive imagination, overthinking things that aren’t there and your thoughts and opinions are therefore irrelevant as they are not real.
5 “You’re just a jealous/bitter/crazy”
This is a huge red flag that you are dealing with a psychopath as you have in some way impeded their plans. They are never wrong about anything and you are the problem, so suddenly you are a crazy bitch or you are jealous of them. What is happening is they are becoming frustrated that things are not going their way, so you become the target of their anger.
6 “I hate the drama”
Where a psychopath is there is always drama, they impact everything and everyone around them. All this so-called drama is caused by no one but themselves, but they will never admit to that. They actually welcome the drama as it makes them the centre of the attention and they will add a whole heap of lies into the mix to garner even more sympathy.
7 “Why do you always do this to me?”
They are experts at playing the victim, so when you finally do call them out on their vile behavior they will turn it back onto you and cast themselves as the victim in the story. They will tell everyone you are crazy and accusing them of things they haven’t done. What they are doing is deflecting their behavior onto you and those around you will feel sorry for them and look at you as the perpetrator of the situation.