Let’s take a moment to stop and think why do we have such a problem in this day and age of saying the word ‘No’?
No, is a full sentence it needs no explanation yet we can often be found explaining ourselves when we say no.
We feel guilty for saying no, and this is just absurd as if we don’t want to do something or don’t agree with something, we have every right to say so.
Thank you to all the women who have said enough of this shit, they have stood up for themselves and said a loud resounding ‘NO’.
For some, this would have meant literally taking their life into their own hands and perhaps even with their voice and body shaking said no.
I want to thank them for their bravery and understanding that life is not a game of saying yes when we really want to scream out no. Fear often makes us say the opposite of what we truly feel and that is a horrible way to live.
Saying no to things that do not feed you and you know would make you unhappy is one the most empowering things you can do for yourself.
The more we respect ourselves and give ourselves the time to do what makes us grow the happier we become, and for those that call us selfish, go jump off a pier honey as you have no idea how being empowered makes us grow.
I salute the sayers of No who stand up to those that believe they have a right to impact our lives in a negative way, setting boundaries is crucial for your own well-being and if people don’t like it tough.
There is no place in life for people who want to force you to do things against your will and believe they have the right to tell you what to do and think.
It is your life, your body, your soul and your mind and only you can own it and only you can live your life through your own choices.
Yes, sadly there are circumstances where control is taken away from you, and it is important for you that you know what happened is in no way your fault.
If someone approaches you in a bar and you don’t want to get to know them, their vibe feels off to you, say no, if they persist never be afraid to shout out ‘I said no’ they won’t like being embarrassed that way, but they should have listened when you said no the first time! Don’t waste your time explaining yourself you said no, done deal.
If you find yourself in a situation where the person makes you feel uncomfortable and you have made it clear that you don’t like it and they continue to act the same, leave. Who the fuck cares if they don’t like it, you sure shouldn’t if the situation makes you anxious then time to remove yourself.
If you don’t want to do something the rest of your friends are doing say so, give whatever it is amiss if they are really your friends, they will respect your decision.
We are raised that we must obey our parents, listen honey you’re an adult now, it’s your life, don’t let your parents continue to dictate to you, you make your life decisions now and you have your big girl panties on and will deal with any consequences of your actions, parents often forget their child is an adult now.
You make your own world and that is because you are unique, we need to be unique as to be all the same would make the world a very boring place to be indeed.
You don’t need to be liked by everyone, but you do need to like yourself, no actually scrap that you need to love yourself, and to love yourself you need to know your true self and not the one that has been created over time, but the one that begins to grow as you assert yourself into who you want to be.
It takes a lot of courage and guts to stand up for yourself and say no and I deeply admire those that do it. For some, it does come easy for the rest of us it is something we need to learn and with anything that is learnt it takes time.
I admire and have great respect for those that stand their ground, for they teach us that we should live life without apology and that it is our life and we get one shot at making it a good one.
So, say loud and proud ‘NO’ and give yourself the power you thought wasn’t possible.
Thank you, ladies, for teaching us it is okay to say ‘NO’