Lindsay is the first to admit she gets naked on Instagram a lot and as she says, “when you have a body as fabulous as mine is, you own that shit.”
A fabulous body as defined by Lindsay is a body that’s attached to a human being.
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Imagine what kind of a world we’d have if we all became our own best friends. Self-love is really as simple as taking the step to challenge the outside forces that have been working to diminish your inherent worth & lovability. We aren’t born hating ourselves. We are conditioned into it. Which means it can all be undone. WE can choose, at any given moment, what we want to believe about ourselves, how we want to think about & talk to ourselves, and how we want to treat our bodies. I can easily say that every step I’ve taken towards bodily acceptance these past two years has resulted in the realization that I really can heal any part of me that feels broken. Of course, the ongoing efforts of going to therapy & being open to medication have personally helped me get there – and this may not be the path for everybody. But every one of us deserves the opportunity to love ourselves at some point during this lifetime. So many of us are taught as children that to be loved, we must do or be something outside of our natural self. And so the undoing process as an adult requires our willingness to unearth who that natural self IS. For me, stepping off of the diet culture roller coaster, owning my complex PTSD diagnosis, and learning how to let go of perfectionism & people pleasing tendencies has freed up space to dig deeper and get to know the me that exists when societal pressures are stripped away. And as scary as it can be to blindly trust a new way of existing, it has been so worth it to take the leap. 🦋 . . . #youareworthy #selflove #bodyacceptance #allbodiesaregoodbodies #effyourbeautystandards #innerworth #plussize #EDrecovery #motherhood #fatisnotaviolation #reparentingyourself #mentalhealthawareness #stretchmarks #postpartumbody #youareenough #healthateverysize #shameresilience #traumarecovery #mombod
Two years ago Lindsay was standing in front of her reflection and she saw a mom bod looking back at her, she felt as she says, “vulnerable as fuck”. She has spent the best part of two decades struggling with an eating disorder, body dysmorphia, and an ongoing self-hate.
Lindsay then gained 75 pounds having her two children, and as with all pregnancy’s her body changed. No matter what she did to change her body it wouldn’t change, first, she got pissed then felt betrayed.
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This is your ONE life. How will you live it? Will you spend your days apologizing for your existence? Will you excuse away others’ abusive behaviors? Will you minimize your needs & desires for those who seek to only take? Will you crumble into a version of you that doesn’t feel authentic? Or will you wake up to the truth that your space in this world is AS EQUALLY DESERVED as any other human being? Please remember that we all came from the same Source. And we will all pass on & transform into something else. For this single, great moment in time, you have a chance to claim your spot. To tell your story. To hold your head up high enough to see the beautiful sky above & the vulnerably felt world below. You have an opportunity to love yourself into continued existence. This is your chance. Will you take it? I sure hope you do. And I’m so glad you’re here. 🦋 . . . #mentalhealth #PTSD #complexPTSD #recovery #healing #childhoodtrauma #selflove #bodyacceptance #effyourbeautystandards #reparentingyourself #youareworthy #selflove #motherhood #innerworth #suicideprevention #youmatter
So Lindsay decided to accept her beautiful body just as it was, and with this freedom of thought, she found it feels good to be a happy, fat mama, her words.
She flipped the bird to the diet industry and started promoting her beautiful body on Instagram to promote body acceptance at any size.
She has no plans to stop with these as she calls them “shenanigans” either and good for her! She says you can blame her husband as to hey you see her “big ass” on Instagram as he is the reason behind why she stopped forcing herself to try and lose weight.
A few years ago Lindsay’s husband Matt told her that he loves and accepts her as she is and that he finds her more attractive at the size she is now, brave man, no, just an honest one
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This guy & I have been away from each other for over a month. The reason why is as heartbreaking as it is life-affirming. We made a tough decision back in April after struggling for the first few months of the year. We decided to pack me & the kids up to fly to the East Coast to stay with my family, so I could get extra support for the increasingly overwhelming task of caring full-time for two kids under the age of four, while also working tirelessly to heal from an unexpected PTSD diagnosis. It’ll be another six weeks before my husband & I are reunited again, and then we’re embarking on a new chapter together in the hopes of creating less stress & more connection as a family unit. My therapist said something to me in one of our final in-person sessions together that was startling and surprisingly comforting. She said that when a parent enters counseling & shares that they have no extended family located closely near them, she writes it down as a substantial cause for concern. Add to that the host of recent symptoms that have accompanied my PTSD – crippling panic attacks, regular bouts of intense shame, fear & overwhelm, suicidal thoughts, and the potential reemergence of long-practiced self-harm tactics – and you have a recipe for mental health disaster. I can’t say that I’m out of the woods yet with everything – far from it – but I can say, with full certainty, that this decision to upend our tough status quo has led to feeling hope more often than not. While I currently see myself as the biggest work-in-progress I’ve ever been so far in my life, I do trust that these steps will lead to a much more empowering & encouraging rest of 2019. ❤️ If you are struggling as a parent with any kind of mental health battles, they are as worthy of a crisis status as any physical illness. Let’s start reminding ourselves that there’s a reason the saying “it takes a village” was coined. And if your village is far away & their presence hardly felt, you have every right to do whatever you can to stick your oxygen mask on first before you care for your tiny humans. 🦋 . . . #mentalhealthawareness #PTSDrecovery #childhoodtrauma #youarenotalone #selflove #counseling #innerworth
Matt had taken to patting her larger tush and giving her the goo-goo eyes that made her suspicious at first, she thought he was making fun of her and her weight. The truth was he did love her just the way she was and she found what he was telling her utterly adorable. Matt has also gained weight since they first met and as Lindsay says she, “enjoyed having more of him to love”.
She did struggle with directing those positive feelings towards herself at first, and as she says; “come on, you can’t blame me for openly embracing his extra cushion while shunning my own.
The images of dad bods are all over the internet and the chubby boy has now started getting the girl in movies these days.
A man being physically bigger, while still getting stigmatized, is not looked at with nearly as much judgment as a woman existing in a fat body.
What is sad is that even now men like Matt are the exception to the norm, which is an outdated and shallow view, if you love someone surely you love them period no matter their size.
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Here’s what romance currently looks like in our multi-kid house. While it’s not expressed regularly in fancy dinners out, love letters, or grand gestures, it is often found sweetly in the tiniest of moments – and if I blink, I usually miss them. So here’s a recount. Romance nowadays is my husband making my first cup of coffee almost every single morning, just the way I like it. It’s sneaking in heavy petting in between the diaper changes & the temper tantrums. It’s laughing together at the end of what feels like the longest day of all time – and then doing it all over again the next day. It’s when he squeezes my arm as he passes by me in the kitchen as we follow our crazy toddler around. It’s watching him carry his newborn son with such tenderness as he sets his little body down to change a Level 10 baby poop blowout. It’s in how much he loves to cook me dinners while I’m passed the EFFF out on the couch at 9pm & the excited look on his face when he’s woken me up to eat it. It’s in every single pep talk he gives me to remind me that while this is the toughest job I’ve ever – EVER – taken on, he thinks I’m phenomenal at it. It’s the ease he has to let the house get messy without an ounce of pressure to immediately clean it up. It’s the little smirk he has on his face when I start babbling about my day to him as soon as he gets home from work. It’s how he gently holds me during the tearful moments when I don’t think I can do this mom thing any longer. It’s how much he has grown as a man & a dad & a person since the day I met him. And it’s the realization that I’d rather be in this parenting mess with him than any other human being on the planet. 😴💖 . . . #parenthood #marriage #myfamily #raisingkids #tiredparents #thisispostpartum #makingafamily
Lindsay says that she has had many mothers reach out to her on Instagram telling her that whilst they have accepted and embraced the changes in their bodies since having children their partners have not. Some became tearful when they shared that their partners are even refusing to have sex with them because of their new size.
Wow! they should hang their heads in shame!
So Lindsay posed some questions for all the men that pull this bullshit on their partners.
Why has it become okay to only find your wife attractive while she is working to maintain the impossible feat of staying the same throughout your marriage?
How can you even look at your partner with anything other than awe at what her phenomenal, superhero bod did when she birthed your children?
And why are y’all choosing to be so short-sighted as to think that you can’t teach your man brains to lust for your wifey bears at any size?
The mental damage done to a woman who is being told she is no longer desirable after growing and nurturing a child is horrendous. Your woman has gone through so many changes to bring a child into the world, so to then be told she is no longer physically attractive is shameful, and being body-shamed is the lowest of the low.
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I wanna let you in on a lil secret – if you play Lizzo’s “Juice” on repeat for long enough, you WILL fall in love with your reflection. 🔥🎉 (TY @lizzobeeating!!!) Seriously though – self-love is so much closer than you think. Society & limiting beliefs & negative conditioning have all been in charge for wayyy too long. ⭐️ YOU get to be in charge now. ⭐️ No matter how you feel about yourself, I encourage you to get the cute flowers for your place, pick out the jeans that feel good (regardless of the size!), listen to the songs that pump you up, and just keeeep telling yourself that you deserve all the hugs & kisses & compliments & LOVE in the world even if you have to fake it til you make it. And one day – maybe sooner than you think! – you just might believe it. (And at the very least – chew on this: you have been worthy of love this entire time. Since the beginning. And forever and ever and ever more. And no one – and I mean, NO ONE – can ever take that worth away from you.) 🦋🌈 . . . #youareworthy #selflove #bodyacceptance #allbodiesaregoodbodies #effyourbeautystandards #innerworth #plussize #EDrecovery #motherhood #fatisnotaviolation #stretchmarks #postpartumbody #youareenough #healthateverysize #shameresilience
Women’s bodies are designed to evolve, we will change shape, develop stretch marks, our boobs sag so does our butt, that doesn’t make us undesirable to the right men, who watch us grow their child, give birth, raise our children all whilst trying to keep a relationship together.
Women are more than their bodies and if you are with a partner who can’t see that then its time, they learn that their view in shallow and outdated.
Women no matter their size and shape are beautiful, strong and badass women, they deserve to be loved and adored.
As Lindsay says, “And if you ever need any more rambunctious pep talks to help you remember how amazing you are, come find me”.
Quite simply this woman is my new fucking hero!!!