We’ve all witnessed people who like to be an open book around everyone. They share even the minutest details of their lives without actually thinking this whole idea through. But what we sometimes don’t realize is that your personal life is your individuality. It’s your secret diary, and your problems and thoughts are things that should only be discussed with highly selective people.
Everyone doesn’t get your concerns, worries or ambitions; and while some people actually do care about you, some are just waiting for an opportunity to bring you down. Here are the 8 main things you should keep to yourself:
Your aims and goals:
Did you know that sharing your long-term goals and ambitions with people and receiving the appreciation for something you actually haven’t even done yet, makes you less likely of achieving it? This might sound absurd but it’s actually true.
Your good acts:
Sharing your good deeds in order to gain attention and validation from others just goes to show that you actually had no good intentions behind performing. Instead, you just wanted a show-off.
Bragging about your worldly possessions:
Modesty is something very rare nowadays. One of the reasons is the boastfulness of people about their materialistic possessions. While there is nothing wrong with sharing your joy, bragging about it might actually put off as rude. Showing off your financial situation is an attempt to make others feel inferior.
Your financial situation:
Your salary and the money in your bank account should be kept only with yourself. Because while money, figuratively, makes the world revolve around you, it sometimes is the reason for ruined relationships and causes problems in your life. So save yourself from all the drama and don’t tell the world about how much money you have or how much you plan to make
Whatever problems you’re facing in any of your relationships, should be kept and talked only between you and the person the problem is with. Telling everyone about the issue makes it bigger than it actually is and might make people lose respect for you or the other person. Value your relationships and respect the other person by not going off and spreading the problem news like wildfire.
What we need to understand is that not everyone is a well-wisher and not everyone loves you as you may feel. Some are really just looking for a chance to bring you down and sharing your strengths and weaknesses might actually give them the opportunity to. Revealing too much information about yourself sometimes comes to bounce you off track especially when you’re least expecting it.
Your family issues:
Discussing your family problems especially with people not concerned is similar to burying your family’s respect. Think about the results of this action rather than spreading such secrets to random people. What happens in your house should stay and get resolved in your house because eventually, you’re going to have to live with them not the ones you’re discussing these issues with.
Negative aspects of your past:
In a world like today where everyone struggles with negativity and problems of their own, we should spread positivity around. Not sharing your bad experiences or spreading hate against someone is what’s needed. Everyone resents someone, despises someone, but let that be a matter of your own; you don’t need to tell people about your ugly memories, instead share the good memories so people enjoy your companionship and cherish these fun times.